Looking to massage at home? Massage is a pleasant activity to engage in with your partner, and your relationship will benefit from your loving touch. However, it’s a good idea to prepare well and safeguard yourselves against the common hazards. Here are a few handy tips that will ensure that a special evening with your loved one does not result in an ‘unhappy ending’.
1. Watch those candles.
The fire at a Wigan massage parlour, caused by a candle falling on a towel, is a reminder to take care when setting up your workstation. Please your candles in sturdy candle holders, or for extra security, use tea lights floating in small bowls of water. Keep any candles away from soft furnishings and towels. Firemen may be hot, but safety comes first. If you want to be extra safe, skip the candles altogether and opt for fairy lights or dimmed lights to create the intimate atmosphere.
2. Warm the body up
You know that you need to stretch before vigorous exercise. Stretching before a massage is also advisable but few people do it. Therefore you need to start the massage gently, with long, flowing strokes. Don’t press down hard straight away or you risk injuring your partner. Your aim is to warm the muscles first in order to prepare them for deeper work.
3. Pick the right type of massage.
Deep tissue massage is best left to professionally trained masseurs, especially if the person you are massaging has had injuries that you need to be mindful of. However, a gentle and sensual massage would be a great option for a beginner masseur. Create the right atmosphere with scented oils and soft music. You may have heard of a masseuse who walked along her client’s spine, but that is definitely not a technique that should be attempted!
4. Be careful around risky areas
There are some parts of the body that should not be massaged by an inexperienced masseur. But if you take basic safety precautions, you really don’t need to worry about causing nerve, spinal cord and other injuries. As you might have guessed, the spinal cord is out of bounds – instead massage the back on both sides of it.
You should also avoid massaging the neck (back of the neck is ok), the abdomen and the insides of the arms. It doesn’t mean you can’t brush over those areas. Just don’t apply pressure! Other sensitive spots include lower back (don’t go hard on the kidneys), the soft spot just below the earlobe and the genitals.
5. Dilute the essential oils.
Essential oils, such as bergamot, geranium and lavender are great for massage. However, do not apply them straight to the skin or you risk anything from dermatitis to an allergic reaction. Worse still, high concentrations of essential oils could be absorbed through the skin. To keep it safe, add essential oil to a ‘carrier’ oil, such as a sweet almond or coconut oil. You would be looking to use a large amount of carrier oil and just a few drops of the essential oil.
Are you worried you might get it wrong? To be extra safe, you can run a test a day before the massage. Mix the essential oil into the carrier oil and rub some of the mixed oil on the inside of your wrist. Leave it for 24 hours and check your wrist. If the skin has turned red, blotchy or itchy, the essential oil is not suitable for you.
6. Take care when oiling the more sensitive parts of the body.
It is generally a good idea to wipe most of the oil off your hands before you touch armpits, face or genitals of your partner, or any other area where the skin is thinner. If your partner has sensitive skin, you can take additional precautions and use a little of the carrier oil, with no essential oil added.
Why? Well, sensitive skin could be more reactive to the essential oil. Furthermore, thin skin may be unable to absorb all of the oil and could develop pimples, blotches or milia (those small white dots that you sometimes get under the eyes).
7. Communicate with the person you are massaging.
This includes enquiring about past injuries and sensitive spots, finding out what touch your partner enjoys and what he doesn’t like, and ensuring that the room is neither too hot nor too cold. Communication doesn’t have to ‘ruin the mood’ or be an in-depth discussion. You can simply ask “is this okay?” or “do you like *this* or *this* more?” in the course of the massage.
Your partner may be ticklish. If so, avoid the touch that causes tickling and instead go for broad, flat hand strokes until the skin is sufficiently warmed up and ready for finer work. The use of fingers, tapping strokes and touching the ribcage often cause tickling.
You’ve got this
That’s all! If you keep these tips in mind, you will have your partner writhing in pleasure, rather than pain. And if you are single or prefer a professional masseur’s touch, treat yourself to one of our luxurious massage offers. Our excellent masseurs will ensure your safety – and your pleasure.