You might book an m4m massage (that’s ‘male for male’ in case you haven’t seen the expression before) as a treat for yourself on special occasions. However, those who turn to massage regularly to relax and unwind might find themselves looking for new ways to enjoy their experience. While some people like the comfort of familiarity, others seek the thrill of novelty. There is no “right” or “wrong” way to enjoy your massage but in this article we will cover some tips for those of you who would like to try something new.

1. Vary the location of your massage.

Can you afford a day out? Or have a business trip coming up? If so, seize the opportunity to try a massage outside of your usual environment. For example, die-hard Londoners might discover something new when trying out male massage in Manchester. It’s not just about new masseurs. We often feel more free in a new place, where no one knows or recognises us. That sense of inner freedom can help you relax more and indulge in new experiences.

Word of warning: if you are travelling abroad, make sure to familiarise yourself with the local laws regarding male massage. In some parts of the world you have to be extra careful.

2. Try different masseurs.

Most agencies will have a few masseurs to choose from. Even if they’ve had the same training, different masseurs will vary in their technique. And it’s not all about touch – it’s also about the personality, the way of communicating. We just connect better to some people than others, sometimes for reasons we don’t even understand ourselves. So while you might have your favourites (leave us a review and tell us who they are!), give a new masseur a chance every so often. You might be in for a pleasant surprise.

3. Choose a different time of day.

In our experience, most clients prefer to book their m4m massage in the evening. It’s easy to see why, time after work is suited for relaxation and the enveloping darkness gives that exciting feeling of a clandestine meeting. However, a morning massage has its own advantages. It feels extra indulgent, as if you have all the time in the world (and maybe you do) to enjoy the finer things in life.

Tip: Early afternoon is great for outcalls, you can follow a sensual massage with some of the best sleep you’ve had in a while.

4. Check out different m4m massage options.

No, they’re not all the same. Some massages differ primarily in the level of sensuality (the most sensual option we offer is Cuddle Tantra/BFE). Others have very distinctive techniques (e.g. Tie & Tease) and equipment (e.g. Nuru massage). Having the attention of two gorgeous masseurs – The Four Hand massage – is worth experiencing at least once in a lifetime. Read the descriptions and try something that intrigues you. You can also speak to us if you have any questions or reservations.

5. Make full use of add-ons and customisations.

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Having a shower together can be a great introduction to your massage.

Add-ons are additional services that add to the massage time and are charged extra, such as bathing and prostate massage. Customisations are requests you make before or during the booking that do not attract an additional charge. See Prices & Services for add-ons and our article on how to customise your massage to see what therapeutic or sensual goals you could set for your session. What requests can be accommodated depends on the masseur, so it’s always worth asking (but please keep it legal!).

6. Bring your partner.

If you think that your partner might enjoy a couples massage, talk to him. We have an article advising how to broach this subject if you are unsure of your partner’s reaction (and we’ve had great feedback on it!). A couples’ massage is a very different experience from a solo session, and when handled right can add an additional dimension to your relationship. Feedback tells us that this is a particularly popular option with monogamous couples who seek excitement but don’t want to have a menage-a-trois or an open relationship.

7. Book a longer massage.

If you have had a few 60-minute massage sessions and felt they finished too early, try a longer massage. We offer 1.5h and 2h options, and occasionally even longer sessions. A longer m4m massage allows the masseur to get more detailed in their bodywork and the person receiving the massage is able to achieve a deeper relaxation. However, this is not an option that will please everyone. Some people prefer a shorter massage and some of the masseurs find that they struggle to maintain the right energy/pressure if the session lasts long (these masseurs only book short sessions and we’ll let you know at the time of booking).

8. Try DIY massage and massage exchanges.

Whilst it’s unlikely to be as skilled, a massage given by your partner can be mind blowing. If you have time to spare, why not learn to massage and practice on each other? Some couples find that erotic massage is a great addition to their sexual repertoire. Once you learn to manipulate muscles, you will also be able to swap massages. If you look online you will find men who enjoy exchanging massages. Best of all, it’s free!

Finally, if you have tried everything…

9. Take a break.

It is possible to have too much of a good thing. If you find that male massage is losing its magic, it is time to take a break. There is no point in paying handsomely for something that doesn’t make you happy. Find other ways to unwind for a while. You can still go for a therapeutic massage (just don’t make the mistake of asking your masseur to undress!). Then, when you feel the excitement and anticipation building up, wait that little bit longer before finally making your booking. We’ll be glad to hear from you again!

If you feel that the time has come to try something new, this should give you a lot of options to play with. But keep an open mind – sometimes we need to step back from the things we love in order to later rediscover them again.